Tuesday, February 24, 2009

Ah, OctoMom

What is it about you lady? Rationally I agree with the people who say you are irresponsible and selfish. I don't agree with the death threats and rage. I do agree that you may be some kind of deep crazy.

And yet, I feel like I understand.

I want to defend your right to have babies because mine has been stripped from me.


Liz said...

Was the post "i repent" about things you have thought about others? sorry i'm not smart enough to keep up.
about octo mom, i am always bothered when people feel they can say what is and isn't acceptable about something as personal as having children. It isn't about policies, it's about personal feelings. unless a child is in harm's way, it's nobody's business. i get sick of being told my parents were selfish for having 7 kids. i get tired of people deciding what Harris' quality of life is or isn't. i get tired of worrying about what rude things people will say to my sister when she announces she is again pregnant. don't people have their own lives to worry about?

Liz said...

I have reread and realize i repent is indeed confessions of your own past judgments. some are pretty harsh. if i were brave enough to do it, i'm sure i'd find mine are even harsher.

The Genetic Mule said...

Yes they are all really terrible and harsh. And you may have noticed they also contradict each other. (I'm not even consistent.) And you may also have noticed that many of the same cruel things I have thought have later come back to crush me. I just really want to be a person who doesn't need to be mean. And I am tired of Karma.

Liz said...

What do you mean by "need to be mean" Does it fill a need?

Natalee said...

I agree. Octumom made some choices that I wouldn't have made. I don't know if she is really thinking clearly, but I don't think that other people have the right to decide how many children a person should have. I can't judge her for being on welfare. I never thought that at thirty I would be living off of food stamps with three children.

As far as I repent goes, I think we all have those judgemental thoughts. I know I've had some very judgemental thoughts about kids who act up or don't behave and thought that the child must come from a "bad home". Then I had Ethan. Lets just say that my thinking is completely different now. It's called a hard lesson learned through experience. Don't beat yourself up. We all do it. All we know is the scope of what we've experienced. When that scope widens it can be humbling and painful.

The Genetic Mule said...

Your question really has me thinking... Why does anyone say or think mean things?

Dealing with a problem I feel powerless to change makes me feel so small. I think saying/judging what I would or wouldn't do in a situation is my attempt at taking control. I try to feel power by mentally smooshing others. It doesn't really work.